Saturday, February 28, 2015

Don't Be Sad

Don't Be Sad
Rosnah Ahmad

Alone
In the night
I felt Your Love
Touching my soul
So pure
So tender
I hear Your voice
Wispering softly
"Don't be sad
I am always near..."
Holding back my tears
I smiled
I slept on it
A deep sleep...
Waking up at the crack of dawn
I felt so serene
Thank You Allah
The Sustainer
For all the favours
The blessings that I do not deny
And Onto You I surrender...

Friday, February 27, 2015

Kesucian jiwa

Indahnya mawar sungguh menawan
Mekar menguntum di laman suri
Tunduknya hati pada kebenaran
Kesucian jiwa wajah berseri

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

BLISS

Salam keindahan dan kedamaian buat sahabat yang dirahmati Allah...

Surah Al-Mutaffifin, Verse 22:
إِنَّ الْأَبْرَارَ لَفِي نَعِيمٍ

Sesungguhnya orang yang berbakti itu benar-benar berada dalam kenikmatan yang besar (syurga)

Surah Al-Mutaffifin, Verse 22:
إِنَّ الْأَبْرَارَ لَفِي نَعِيمٍ

Truly the Righteous will be in Bliss:

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Redha Jua Hamba

Pagi yang indah
Hari yang bahagia
Ukhwah yang berseri
Nikmat yang tidak didustakan
Redha jua diri
Dalam apa jua
Sesungguhnya
Tiada apa yang lebih diutamakan
Melainkan Mu
Ya Allah
Ya Rahman
Ya Rahim
Ya Alim
Ya Ghafur
Hanya kepada Mu
Hamba Mu berserah...

Monday, February 23, 2015

17 Rulea to Guide You Through Any Conflict

Psychology Today

17 Rules to Guide You Through Any Conflict

Ways to reach a real agreement, whether with a partner, coworker, or relative.

Post published by Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. on Jan 27, 2015 in Fulfillment at Any Age

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Conflict is an inevitable part of a relationship. Whether it’s at work or at home, you’re bound to run into a situation in which you and another person (or persons) don’t agree on an issue, a plan, or a problem to be solved.

Conflicts trigger our deepest emotions. Just watch two young children battle over the same toy. Filled with sheer rage, they each grab at the toy, and each other, until one of them prevails (or the toy breaks).  Such conflicts set the stage for all of our adult struggles. The words we use may become more sophisticated, but the underlying feelings remain strikingly similar.

The key feature of the new Dana Caspersen’s book, Changing the Conversation: The 17 Principles of Conflict Resolution(link is external), in my opinion, is its emphasis on these underlying emotions. This graphically-oriented how-to book takes the reader through her 17 principles in a way that allows you to understand each principle, its “anti-principle,” its focus, specific examples, a way to put it into practice, and the choice it presents.  Drawing from examples that range from relationships to office politics to parenting, Caspersen gives you the chance to understand what’s behind life’s everyday conflicts and how best, in turn, to consider handling them.

Caspersen emphasizes the importance of “changing your conversations,” allowing conflict to translate into a “moment of opportunity.” A conflict, then, becomes a “difficult situation” that you can use to challenge and change yourself and your relationships. By emphasizing the conversational aspect of conflict, Caspersen allows us to change the way “conflict is expressed…to resolve conflict from the inside, in a manner that works for everyone involved.”

It may not be all that easy to keep 17 principles readily in mind when you’re in the midst of a conflict, but you should be able to manage recalling the 3 categories into which they fall. Essentially, the process involves a listening/speaking phase and a dialogue between the disputing parties. It's only at that point that you can reach a solution or agreement that works—at least for now. Caspersen maintains that we can never completely eliminate conflicts and rather than strive for this unrealistic goal, it’s healthier to figure out a way to handle them on future occasions.

Here, then, are the 17 principles, grouped by phase, and using the term partner to refer generally to the individual with whom you're in conflict:

Phase 1: Facilitate Listening and SpeakingListening and speaking are the basic elements of a conversation. Too often we do one without the other. In the early phase of conflict resolution, you and your partner need to be able to be as nondefensive and nonjudgmental as possible. Don’t rush to a solution, because it’s only by seeing the situation in all its complexity that you’ll be able to “untangle the strands.” 

1. Don’t hear attack. Listen for what is behind the words. If you assume you’re under attack, you’ll hear attack. Instead of hearing “attack,” try to hear “information.”

2. Resist the urge to attack—change the conversation from the inside. If you can avoid hearing “attack,” this principle will be easier to follow. For example, your partner may be asking you to clean the dishes up earlier after a meal than you would care to do. Rather than complain angrily about this night after night, you can instead express the way you feel about the situation. Here’s where an “I” statement (“I feel disappointed because I like a clean kitchen”) is preferable to a “you” statement (“You’re a lazy slob.”) As a general rule, this sentence can give you language to help you frame this statement: “When [this event] happened, I felt [this feeling] because [my need or interest] is really important to me.”

3. Talk to the other person’s best self. According to this principle (and its antithesis- provoke the other person’s worst self) you are best off approaching a conflict by appealing to your partner’s higher nature. Just as asports team will “play down” to an inferior opponent, you and your partner can devolve into a shouting match if you each appeal to the other person’s worst impulses. Try to find the good in other people, and their good side will be more likely to show through.

4. Differentiate needs, interests, and strategies. People have basic needs (such as autonomy) interests (such as seeking to be educated), and strategies (such as applying to school). Caspersen puts it succinctly. “Every strategy is an attempt to meet a need or interest.” If you try to come up with a strategy before figuring out which needs or interests are being addressed, your approach will come up short.  Asking yourself what’s so important about the conflict will help you identify your needs and interests.

5. Acknowledge emotions—see them as signals. This is perhaps the crux of the first set of principles. We often act on our emotions without recognizing that they're telling us something important. Emotions can help you understand what’s driving the conflict. If you take the time to identify the emotions, you’ll be better able to get to the root of the problem. Pretending you don’t have those emotions will only ensure that they continue to get in your way. 

6. Differentiate between acknowledgement and agreement. Let your partner know that he or she is “being heard,” as the saying goes. Don’t assume you and your partner do, or should, agree on every occasion. You can use phrases such as “It sounds like,” or “I hear you say that,” perhaps followed up with “Is that right? What are your concerns?”

7. When listening, avoid making suggestions.No matter how obvious the “solution” seems to you, it’s important that you hear the other person out. Not only may your partner be going in a completely different direction than you imagined, but by waiting, you also communicate an air of respect. You can ask clarifying questions (“Is this what you mean?”) that show you’re interested, but don’t try to jump-start a solution out of your own discomfort or impatience.

8. Differentiate between evaluation and observation. Create a “no-judgment” zone for your partner in which you make observations (“You came home at 6 pm instead of 5 pm, three times this week”) rather than evaluate or judge (“Why are you always so late?”). By noting a behavior instead of evaluating it, you avoid putting the other person on the defensive, which, as shown in the previous principles, can create continued resentment and misunderstandings.

9. Test your assumptions—and relinquish them if they prove false. Being a good scientist involves being willing to make hypotheses that you can test empirically. Similarly, in a conflict, simply state your observation (“You came home at 6 pm…”) along with a question to make sure your observation is correct (“Is that right?”). In this way, you are able to show that you’re open to being proven wrong rather than insisting that no matter what, you’re always right.

Phase 2: Facilitate Listening and Speaking.To change the conversation, you have to get inside it. The open mind is fine to get the conflict resolution process underway, but then you need to maintain it as you work it through with your partner.

10. Develop curiosity in difficult situations.You may not always like the answers that you get during a conflict, such as the infamous question “Is it me or is it you?” but you still need to maintain an open mind to be able to hear what your partner has to say.

11. Assume useful dialogue is possible, even when it seems unlikely.  Opponents who are the opposite end of a bargaining table often make dire predictions about the likelihood of reaching agreement.  However, if you assume the best can happen, perhaps it will. Try to find out what’s keeping you from having that useful dialogue occur, such as asking yourself “What is making it difficult for us to talk in a productive manner?”

12. If you are making things worse, stop. As people’s emotions escalate in a conflict, it becomes increasingly difficult to pull away. Have an open mind toward recognizing that you may be the one preventing you and your partner from reaching a positive outcome. This doesn’t mean that you always have to give up in every situation, but you can benefit from recognizing your own contribution to a conflict, especially if it’s the kind of conflict you have time and time again.

13. Figure out what’s happening, not whose fault it is. Finger-pointing is one of the most destructive conflict resolution strategies there is. Everyone in a conflict plays a role in keeping it going, no matter how large or small. Rather than try to assign blame, try to take the long view to understand what got you to the position you and your partner are now occupying.

Phase 3: Look For Ways Forward. Planning for the future, and the possibility of future conflict, is the last phase of conflict resolution. As you'll see, though, it's not the "end."

14. Acknowledge conflict. Identify your needs and interests as well as those of your partner, recognize that they’re at odds, and then try to come up with a workable strategy to resolve those differences.  You may find that there are multiple issues involved. Make a “to do” list of the ones that seem most vital, along with workable steps for tackling them.

15. Assume undiscovered options exist. You may feel at your wit’s end, but if you take the positive viewpoint that change is possible, you may be able to come up with creative solutions to which your partner agrees. Thinking “outside the box,” perhaps by taking a little break (as in Principle 12) may allow you and your partner to refocus on a solution you can both live with.

16. Be explicit about agreements. Any good resolution will involve some type of agreement; rather than make assumptions about what that agreement is, be sure that both you and your partner are clear. It may seem strange, but by putting those agreements in writing, you can reduce the chances of misunderstandings in the future. Similarly, if situations change (such as your partner gets new work hours), you need to revisit your prior agreements.

17. Expect and plan for future conflict. It would be nice if we settled arguments once and for all and they never appeared again. However, certain themes are likely to recur over time, particularly in your closest relationships. The better you can listen, speak, delve into a conflict, and then come up with an agreement, the less likely a conflict will come back to haunt you. However, the reality is that our needs and interests will never completely coincide with others, even those who you hold nearest and dearest.

In summary, this intriguing book covers a lot of ground. The basic themes of communication, respect, curiosity, and willingness to consider alternative points of view can get you through many of life’s toughest moments with the people who matter most to you.

Follow me on Twitter @swhitbo(link is external) for daily updates on psychology, health, and aging. Feel free to join my Facebook group, "Fulfillment at Any Age(link is external)," to discuss today's blog, or to ask further questions about this posting.

Copyright Susan Krauss Whitbourne 2015

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Sunday, February 22, 2015

Kebebasan Yang Mutlak

Dari buku Reclaim Your Heart

Surah Al-Hajj, Verse 73:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ ضُرِبَ مَثَلٌ فَاسْتَمِعُوا لَهُ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ تَدْعُونَ مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ لَن يَخْلُقُوا ذُبَابًا وَلَوِ اجْتَمَعُوا لَهُ وَإِن يَسْلُبْهُمُ الذُّبَابُ شَيْئًا لَّا يَسْتَنقِذُوهُ مِنْهُ ضَعُفَ الطَّالِبُ وَالْمَطْلُوبُ

Hai manusia, telah dibuat perumpamaan, maka dengarkanlah olehmu perumpamaan itu. Sesungguhnya segala yang kamu seru selain Allah sekali-kali tidak dapat menciptakan seekor lalatpun, walaupun mereka bersatu menciptakannya. Dan jika lalat itu merampas sesuatu dari mereka, tiadalah mereka dapat merebutnya kembali dari lalat itu. Amat lemahlah yang menyembah dan amat lemah (pulalah) yang disembah.
(Indonesian)

Ayat ni dlm mksudnya

Jika kita kejar apa yg selain Allah kita jd lemah

Walau kita capai apa yg dihajati..ia masih tidak mencukupi

Dan terus mengejar yg lain...kita tidak akan sampai kepuasan yg sebenar.

Apa pun kita boleh bebaskan diri dari penghambaan pada dunia.

Surah Al-Baqara, Verse 256:
لَا إِكْرَاهَ فِي الدِّينِ قَد تَّبَيَّنَ الرُّشْدُ مِنَ الْغَيِّ فَمَن يَكْفُرْ بِالطَّاغُوتِ وَيُؤْمِن بِاللَّهِ فَقَدِ اسْتَمْسَكَ بِالْعُرْوَةِ الْوُثْقَىٰ لَا انفِصَامَ لَهَا وَاللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

Tidak ada paksaan untuk (memasuki) agama (Islam); sesungguhnya telah jelas jalan yang benar daripada jalan yang sesat. Karena itu barangsiapa yang ingkar kepada Thaghut dan beriman kepada Allah, maka sesungguhnya ia telah berpegang kepada buhul tali yang amat kuat yang tidak akan putus. Dan Allah Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengetahui.
(Indonesian)

via iQuran

Apabila kita berpegang pada yg Maha Kuat...kita akan kuat..dn dgn kekuatan itu akan hadir kebebasan yg mutlak.

Wallahualam

Saturday, February 21, 2015

Daily Phrases-Keep It Down

Everyday English
Learning simple daily phrases

# Keep it down...slow down/quiet

Eg. Please keep it down, the baby is sleeping.

Wallahua'lam

Local vs Standard English-Follow/Come with

EVERYDAY ENGLISH
Local vs  Standard  English

Local use:

I am going to Kuala Lumpur. You can FOLLOW me if you like

Standard English:

You can COME WITH me if you like

In standard English, follow means 'go behind'

Wallahua'lam

Difficult Word Pairs-LIE/LAY

EVERYDAY ENGLISH
Difficult word pairs

LIE/LAY

LIE- a verb meaning "Lie down".

Eg. She LIE down on the carpet to rest.

Past tense for LIE is LAY

Eg.  We all LAY down on the carpet to rest

LAY-a verb meaning ' put (something) down'

Eg. Siti lay down the books on the table.
(persent tense)u

The past tense is LAID.

Eg. She LAID the books on the table just now.(past tense)

Wallahua'lam

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Damailah jiwa tenanglah hati

Cantik berseri bunga kekwa
Mekar menguntum bunga melati
Damailah hati tenanglah jiwa
Hingga bertemu Kekasih hati

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Hati-hati yang ingat

Hati-hati Yang Ingat...

Fajar yang bercahaya
Hari yang bahagia
Ya Allah
Ya Rahman
Ya Rahim
Syukur atas nikmat ukhwah
Hati-hati yang ingat
Hati-hati yang bertemu
Hati-hati yang berpisah
Hati-hati yang mengasihi Mu
Beriman dan beramal
Hanya kepada Mu
Tautkan hati-hati ini
Damaikan hati-hati ini
Tetapkan hati-hati ini
Dalam iman dan amal
Dalam persahabatan yang diredhai
Hingga ke syurga Mu

Monday, February 16, 2015

Berbalas Pantun- 16 Feb 2015

Rosnah Ahmad:

Malam beredar siang bertamu
Anugerah Tuhan tiada yang sia
Dalam pencarian hati bertemu
Berlalulah duka hadirlah bahagia

Shahrom:

Malam beredar siang bertamu
Anugerah Tuhan tiada yang sia
Bahagia dicari usahlah jemu
Pintalah ia pada yg Esa

Zulkifli Yusof:

Dalam pencarian hati bertemu
Berlalu duka hadirlah bahagia
Semoga bahagia terus bertamu
Di hari mendatang dan seterusnya

Rosnah Ahmad:

Bahagia dicari usahlah jemu
Pintalah ia pada yang Esa
Manakan jemu jika bertemu
Bahagia dirasa sepanjang masa

Rosnah Ahmad:

Semoga bahagia terus bertamu
Di hari mendatang dan seterusnya
Selama diri tidak jemu
Taman hati mekar berbunga🌺🌸

Shahrom:

Manakan jemu jika bertemu
Bahagia dirasa sepanjang masa
Tenang dan damai hanya dgn Mu
Waktu berlalu tidak terasa

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

You and I..Dedikasi untuk The SOIF Coach Certification Program..

You and I
Rosnah Ahmad
( Dedicated to the The SOIF Coach Certification Program)

You were so warm
I felt at ease
I told you that...
I have a problem

Opening up to you
I realised
The problem is I...

Talking to you
Helped me unfold
The ANSWER...
The intention to achieve
Exploring the intrinsic and extrinsic strength
With ALLAH as the Possesor of All Strength
The opportunities that await me
The ultimate victory
Enough to keep me motivated...

You and I
Not a coincidence
A blessing from HIM
The Most Compassionate
The Sastifier of All Needs
The One who opened my heart
Removed my burden
Exalted my esteem
To explore the improvements
Giving me FAITH
Courage to change
To achieve the intention...

Thank you Allah
Now....
....I am at peace...

Monday, February 9, 2015

Kau dan Aku-Dedikasi untuk The SOIF Coach Certafication Program

Kau dan Aku
Rosnah Ahmad

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Bermula cerita
Membina hubungan
Senang sekali aku
Berbicara bersamamu...

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Berbicara aku
Apa yang membelenggu diri
Kau seakan mengerti
Bagaimana aku berfikir
Hingga tersingkap tirai yang menutupi
Jawapan....

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Jawapan yang ditemui
Menjadi niat yang diperjelaskan
Tugasan bersama
Kau dan aku
Mencapai apa yang aku niatkan
Meneroka kekuatan yang aku miliki
Kau ingatkan aku
ALLAH itu kekuatan utama
Kau pasakkan kekuatan dalam diriku...

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Menyedarkan aku peluang dan ganjaran
Kemenangan yang besar
Yang jauh lebih banyak menanti
Cukup memotivasikan diriku
Melalui proses pengislahan diri...

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Mengubah mindaku
Membawa aku yakin dengan hati
Hingga berani aku melaksanakan
Apa yang diniatkan...

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Bukan satu kebetulan...

Pertemuan
Kau dan aku
Sungguh bermakna
Dengan IzinNya
Kini ku kembali
Damai....

**didedikasikan untuk SOIF coaching. Terima kasih Sifu Tuan Mohd Rizal Hassan dan sahabat-sahabat yang baik budi.

Renew your intention

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

10 People Who Will Destroy Your Business

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ISAIAH HANKEL

CONTRIBUTOR

Entrepreneur Speaker and Business Consultant

JANUARY 20, 2015

If you want to build a great business, you have to be very deliberate about whom you let into it. 

Emotions and behaviors may circulate through social networks in patterns similar to what’s seen in epidemiological models of the flu virus. Every positive person you let into your life increases your chances of being positive 11 percent, estimated a study published in 2010 in the Proceedings of the Royal Society.  

"Just one sad friend was needed to double an individual’s chance of becoming unhappy," Wired summarized about the report.

Figuring out whom to avoid and whom to let in won’t always be easy. But with a little practice, you can get really good at staying far away from people who might bring your business down. Here are 10 people (whether employees or clients) you should avoid if you’re starting a business:

Related: What the NFL's Toxic Achievers Can Teach You About the Workplace

1. The siren.

Sirens are those amazing and enticing people who come into your business and completely distract you. More than anyone else, these people have a way of stealing your focus and throwing your efforts off track.

A lot of promising futures have been sacrificed to sirens. Some people have sold their businesses for way less than they are worth and others have given up on their businesses to chase a get-rich-quick scheme than some sirens pitched them. Don’t let this happen to you. Don’t let an amazing person make you forget that you and your business have something amazing to offer the world, too.

2. The goat. 

Goats are those wildly charismatic, big-talking and full-of-luck people who seem to get away with everything. These people have many strengths.

The problem is that they use their strengths in devious ways. Goats have little ambition beyond convincing others to make bad decisions. If you find yourself constantly making bad business decisions every time you’re around someone in particular, it’s time to cut that person out of your business.

3. The elephant.

An elephant never forgets. Elephants are those people in your business who never let you live down past mistakes. They never let you live down who you used to be or how many times you’ve messed up.

Don’t let an elephant pull you back into the past. Everyone fails, especially entrepreneurs. If you’ve failed, it means you’ve learned. So stay on track and keep moving forward.

4. The hater.

Haters are people who want to be on top but don’t want to work to get there. Instead, they want to push everyone else around them down so it will seem like they’re on top.

Haters are losers but they also can serve as a source of motivation in a strange way. Don’t let haters into your business but use them as motivation to make your business as strong as possible.

Related: When Workplace 'Slackers' Derail the Cohesion of a Team

5. The narcissist.

Narcissists are talented people who are too consumed with themselves to take action. They’re especially bad at taking team-oriented action.

A narcissist might even encourage you to put the image of your business over its reputation. This is always bad idea. When starting a business, it’s best to be transparent and authentic. Don’t try to make things seem bigger than they are and avoid trying to be something you’re not. Instead, be real. Keep narcissists out of your startup and stay focused on your reputation, not your image.

6. The nemesis.

When you’re starting a business, sometimes you’ll have to work with someone whom you can’t stand and who can’t stand you. If you’re not careful, this can become a major distraction.

Try to realize that what you don’t like about a nemesis is probably something you don’t like about yourself or it’s something that you like too much about yourself. Either way, something is at odds with your identity and the only way to fix it is to turn the mirror on yourself, not the nemesis.

Your adversary can be your advisor in a way. If you bring a nemesis into your startup, use this person to learn about yourself. Once you do this, he or she won’t be your nemesis anymore.

7. The Ares.

Ares is the Greek god of war. Ares-type people love conflict. They are addicted to drama and winning at all costs, even if there’s nothing to be won. Any time spent trying to correct or even understand an Ares is a waste of time. You are better off ignoring these people and keeping them out of your business altogether.

8. The Dionysus.

Dionysus is the Greek god of wine, parties and pleasure. Dionysus sorts are pleasure seekers who have very little patience for anything other than instant gratification.

Be careful when letting these people into your business because base pleasure of any kind is both addictive and time-consuming. It’s important to have friends and have fun, but you should never sacrifice your startup to a string of late nights.

9. The black cat.

Some people can walk into a business and light it up. Others walk in and kill it. Black cats are the latter. They are the people who seem to have a dark cloud following them everywhere they go.

These people are unlucky, negative and always depressed. Don’t feel bad for these people. Odds are, they like sitting in the pits. They like the attention it gives them. So, let them sit. Just make sure they’re sitting outside your business.

10. The fat cat.

Fat cats are those people who will come into your business, throw a bunch of money around and offer you the world. Whether these people are angel investors or venture capitalists from top firms, don’t let their flash or their cash distract you from the fact that they want to control your company and make money off you.

Be very careful with whom give your business to. You didn’t work this hard to watch your brand and reputation go down in flames at the paws of some fat cat who is now calling the shots. 

Related: Motivating the Negative Nancy on Your Team

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Your Personal Brand Needs a Growth Strategy

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CYNTHIA JOHNSON

CONTRIBUTOR

FEBRUARY 04, 2015

In recent years we have seen an increasing need for entrepreneurs and professionals to not only have a successful business, but they need to have a successful personal brand as well.  We are in the digital age and there is little room to be silent about who we are and the businesses we are involved in. There is a need for self-branding, and it is growing everyday. 

The issue that I see in most self-branding efforts is that people treat their personal brand differently than their business’s brand. 

Every business needs a growth strategy and an exit strategy.  We need to know what we are doing, where we are going and at what point we walk away.  A personal brand should be treated no differently than a business’s brand. Our personal brand should not be limited to the first set skills we’ve perfected. So what do you need to accomplish this for yourself?

When preparing your personal brand strategy, plan, research, and create actionable tactics and realistic goals.  This strategy may be the most important one that you ever create. Zach Binder, Chief Operating Officer at RankLab, chimes in on how to create a successful strategy,  "A successful marketing strategy is not created out of thin air. It requires a combination of research, innovative tactics, and keen intuition as a marketer." 

Related: 4 Ways to Make Yourself Memorable and Leave Great Impressions

Here are the steps in mapping out your personal brand strategy:

1. Market Penetration

In business, this would be taking the least risky growth strategy and a company would sell most of its current product to its current customers. For a personal-brand growth strategy, this would be walking into your first job, sticking to your niche within the company and doing it really well.  This is an important step in your growth strategy. Find the first thing you do well and do it really well. Make sure that everyone around you knows what you do and how well that you do it.

2. Market Development

Step two in your growth plan is planning a way to reach more people with your expertise.  A company doing this would start finding ways to sell more of its products to new regions. For personal-brand growth, this would be taking on more at work, working with other departments to help strategize together, or possibly taking a new job within your industry.

3. Alternative Channels

When a brand looks for alternative channels to grow its business, it is looking for new ways to reach customers. For personal-brand growth, this would be blogging, writing a book, volunteer work or speaking at conferences within your industry.  This step requires that you start working to become a thought leader in your industry inside and outside of the office.

Related: When Building an Online Brand, Start With the Foundation

4. Product Development

This is my favorite step in creating a growth strategy for your personal brand.  A company would create and sell new products, but as a person we learn new tricks.  An example of this would be a digital-marketing professional who expands to business development, public relations or business consulting. This step in the process ensures that you don’t get left behind as the industry changes, and the industry always changes.

5. New Products for New Customers

This strategy is common at major companies. You create products for the new customers.  For instance, if you are a marketing professional who now does business consulting, you may begin expanding on new areas of your industry and knowledge based on the needs of your new customers. This growth plan allows for you to have more than one part-time position, multiple revenue streams and an increase reach or authority within your industry.

In today’s world a personal growth strategy is necessary to keep from falling behind.  As you move through these steps, they get increasingly more difficult.  I suggest that you take one at a time, perfect the previous and then move forward.  For some people stopping at step two or three is absolutely fine.  Just remember to have an idea of where you are going and how you are going to get there. 

Have you ever thought about creating a personal brand growth strategy? I would love to hear of some steps other people have taken!

Related: Entrepreneurs Must Always Have Answers for These 5 Questions

Monday, February 2, 2015

PERSEKITARAN HARMONI MEMBENTUK FITRAH SI KECIL

PERSEKITARAN HARMONI MEMBENTUK FITRAH SI KECIL
Rosnah Ahmad
rentis.blogspot.com

Salam kedamaian,

Adakah persekitaran dalam dan luar TASKA & TADIKA sekarang terlalu meriah dengan warna?

Ya..itu jawapan saya dan saya berpendapat ia agak kurang kondusif dan mengganggu fokus kanak-kanak.

Pemilihan warna perabot dan peralatan juga terlalu meriah. Warna-warna lembut dan natural bagi saya lebih harmoni.

Hiasan yg terlalu banyak juga tidak perlu. Memadai dengan sudut-sudut pembelajaran yang dihias dengan hasil kerja kanak-kanak. Bukan sudut-sudut yang diwarnai dan dihias dengan hasil kerja guru.

Kombinasi elemen alam di persekitaran adalah lebih harmoni dan memberi warna-warna yang natural. Ia mendamaikan jiwa si kecil.

Warna-warna yang terlalu meriah juga sudah menjadi trend di persekitaran luar TASKA & TADIKA. Persekiran luar yang harmoni  dengan pepohon dan bebunga lebih sesuai dengan fitrah si kecil.

Kanak-kanak fitrahnya suci. Mereka sukakan kelembutan dan kedamaian. Pemilihan warna bagi persekitaran dalam dan luar TASKA & TADIKA sangat penting bagi keberkesanan pengajaran dan pembelajaran serta membentuk jiwa halus si kecil.

Disertakan puisi bertajuk " mana dia" oleh saya  dan artikel " rethinking the colorful kindergarten" oleh Jan Hoffman. Moga bermanfaat.

MANA DIA http://rentis.blogspot.com/2014/11/mana-dia.html

http://mobile.nytimes.com/blogs/well/2014/06/09/rethinking-the-colorful-kindergarten-classroom/

Dekati dan sayangi anak-anak kita.

Wallahu'alam